An Easter gift to the world….

Can we ever really tire of this beautiful scene? Below is young Dominic’s father’s account of this unforgettable moment, in his own words.

Paul Gondreau is a theology professor in Rome. He and his wife and their five children had come to St. Peter’s Square for a glimpse of the Holy Father. The Swiss Guard allowed his handicapped son, Dominic, and one other family member, his mother, to move to the front of the barricade. Dr. Gondreau and his four other children watched the jumbotron in joyful disbelief, as Pope Francis and Dominic unexpectedly embraced.

Vatican Pope Easter

“Small acts with great love,” Mother Teresa was fond of saying. Yesterday, Pope Francis bestowed an extraordinary Easter blessing upon my family when he performed such an act in embracing my son, Dominic, who has cerebral palsy. The embrace occurred when the Pope spied my son while touring the Square, packed with a quarter million pilgrims, in the “pope mobile” after Mass. This tender moment, an encounter of a modern Francis with a modern Dominic (as most know, tradition holds that St. Francis and St. Dominic enjoyed an historic encounter), moved not only my family (we were all moved to tears), not only those in the immediate vicinity (many of whom were also brought to tears by it), not only by thousands who were watching on the big screens in the Square, but by the entire world. Images of this embrace quickly went viral, and by Easter Sunday afternoon it was the lead picture on the Drudge Report, with the caption, “Change Hatred into Love” (a paraphrase of Pope Francis’ Urbi et Orbi message that followed shortly thereafter), where it remains even as I write this. Fox News, NBC Nightly News, ABC Nightly News, and CNN all showed clips of it. Lead pictures of it were found in Le Figaro, the New York Post, The Wall Street Journal, the Philadelphia Inquirer, inter alia.

It is often difficult to try to express to people who do not have special needs children what kind of untold sacrifices are demanded of us each and every day. And as for Dominic, he has already shared in Christ’s Cross more than I have throughout my entire life multiplied a thousand times over. What is the purpose in all this, I ask? Furthermore, I often tend to see my relationship with Dominic in a one-sided manner. Yes, he suffers more than me, but it’s constantly ME who must help HIM. Which is how our culture often looks upon the disabled: as weak, needy individuals who depend so much upon others, and who contribute little, if anything, to those around them.

Pope Francis’ embrace of my son yesterday turns this logic completely on its head and, in its own small yet powerful way, shows once again how the wisdom of the Cross confounds human wisdom. Why is the whole world so moved by images of this embrace? A woman in the Square, moved to tears by the embrace, perhaps answered it best when she to my wife afterward, “You know, your son is here to show people how to love.” To show people how to love. This remark hit my wife as a gentle heaven-sent confirmation of what she has long suspected: that Dominic’s special vocation in the world is to move people to love, to show people how to love. We human beings are made to love, and we depend upon examples to show us how to do this.

But how can a disabled person show us how to love in a way that only a disabled person can? Because the Cross of Christ is sweet and is of a higher order. Christ’s resurrection from the Cross proclaims that the love he offers us, the love that we, in our turn, are to show others, is the REAL reason he endured the Cross in the first place. Our stony hearts are transformed into this Christ-like love, and thereby empowered to change hatred into love, only through the Cross. And no one shares in the Cross more intimately than the disabled. And so the disabled become our models and our inspiration. Yes, I give much to my son, Dominic. But he gives me more, WAY more. I help him stand and walk, but he shows me how to love. I feed him, but he shows me how to love. I bring him to physical therapy, but he shows me how to love. I stretch his muscles and joke around with him, but he shows me how to love. I lift him in and out of his chair, I wheel him all over the place, but he shows me how to love. I give up my time, so much time, for him, but he shows me how to love.

This lesson, to repeat, confounds the wisdom of the world. Heck, it confounds me when I, as his parent, so often fail to see my son’s condition for what it is. The lesson my disabled son gives stands as a powerful testament to the dignity and infinite value of every human person, especially of those the world deems the weakest and most “useless.” Through their sharing in the “folly” of the Cross, the disabled are, in truth, the most powerful and the most productive among us.

One more thing. Pope Francis’ embrace of my son, Dominic, indicates that we should not interpret the new Pontiff’s expressed devotion to the poor, already a cornerstone of his pontificate, in facile, purely material (let alone political) categories. His Easter embrace of my son stands out as a compelling witness to the kind of “poverty” that he urges us to adopt, the poverty that he pointed to in the opening line of his Urbi et Orbi message yesterday: “I would like [the message of Christ’s resurrection] to go out to every house and every family, especially where the suffering is greatest…” Parents of disabled children, stand up and find solace and encouragement in these simple yet profound words.

Source: Catholic Moral Theology: http://catholicmoraltheology.com/a-special-vocation-to-show-people-how-to-love/

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10 thoughts on “An Easter gift to the world….

  1. Patricia, I had not seen this. Thank you so much for sharing. This is one of the most moving reflections I’ve read in a long time. Dr. Gondreau is really on to something here. I know that some people dismiss anything that evokes emotion or sentiment, usually the same folks who find no usefulness for St. Therese, but these simple but profound acts are, I believe, an invitation to deeper understanding of the heart of Christ’s love for us, ALL of us. Continued prayers for your intentions my friend.
    Love
    Joyce

  2. Joyce, if you have time, go look this up on youtube. Little Dominic worked so hard to get his arm around the Holy Father’s neck, and Pope Francis waited patiently, kissing and hugging the little boy. I so much agree with you, about these “simple but profound acts..” helping us to better understand how God loves.us.

    In a sense, we are all Dominics in His arms…We may not be handicapped on the outside, but we are all broken with sin. How lovely to see ourselves being cradled in God’s arms this way!

    Thank you for your much needed prayers. Praying for you too! xoxo

  3. Patricia, I’m finding our Holy Father’s messages almost heart-stopping..And I like how you say– in a sense we are all handicapped with sin and perhaps internal sorrows. That hug is for all of us.
    I’ll be praying for you at first Friday devotions.
    Love always and +

    • Caroline, he speaks so simply, but says what we need to hear! Yes, that hug is for all of us…and I love that it reminds us of the really BIG HUG Our Father is always enfolding each of us in. Sigh…. No wonder Jesus told us to become like little children…who want to be hugged and protected and cared for.

      Thank you so much for the First Friday remembrance. Wish I could be there with you! I’ll remember you in my Office and rosary…and Divine Mercy Chaplet. Love and Easter hugs! 🙂

  4. Hi Patricia,
    I loved this picture and post! There’s something very special about this pope, don’t you think?
    I saw your comment on my blog and sent you an e-mail 🙂 (And, no, I didn’t get it but that probably won’t surprise you…lol)

    • Hi Mary…what a precious moment captured! Yes, Pope Francis seems to have beautiful gifts, especially his love for the poor, and his simplicity. I’m so glad I asked you about that e-mail….I should have known! What is it with us?! I’ll resend tonight. Have a beautiful Feast of Divine Mercy tomorrow. Love and prayers….xo

  5. Patricia,

    I have read this posts few times and cried every time. Why does love make me cry? I hadn’t heard this story before so thank you for sharing it!

    God bless you!

    • Hi Sue…was out of town, so please forgive the late response. Although I haven’t had time to write much, I’ve been following your “alphabet” blog posts, and thoroughly enjoying them. I’m terribly frustrated at not having time to put in my two cents worth of comments on each of them. I’m trying to decide which is my favorite. They are all wonderful! 🙂

      Why does love make you cry?
      I’m not sure. Maybe because love is so beautiful? Beautiful things make me cry. I don’t mean beautiful “stuff” 🙂 But rather, things like the picture of the Pope Francis and that beautiful child…transcendently beautiful things. We were made for beauty. God is Beauty. Do you think we will cry when we see Him? Thinking about how much He loves us often makes me cry. I’d like to know why you think love makes us cry. Hugs to you dear Sue xoxo

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